Actress Julia Stiles opens up about her latest project, a directorial debut titled Wish You Were Here, and finds solace in dance as she navigates the pressures of grifter loneliness.
Grifter Loneliness is Not for Me Anymore: Julia Stiles Opens Up
I put a lot of pressure on myself as an actress, and that’s something I’ve learned to manage over the years. As I delve into my latest project, a directorial debut titled Wish You Were Here, I’m reminded of the importance of self-awareness in the creative process.
Julia Stiles is an American actress born on March 28, 1981, in New York City.
She rose to fame with her role as Bianca Burnham in the 1999 film '10 Things I Hate About You.' Stiles has appeared in numerous films and television shows, including 'Save the Last Dance,' 'Mona Lisa Smile,' and 'Dexter.' She has been nominated for several awards throughout her career, showcasing her versatility and talent as an actress.
Finding Freedom from Grifter Loneliness
I used to identify with the character of Madonna-like free spirit in Desperately Seeking Susan, but those days are behind me. I’ve come to realize that my own path is distinct from that of others who possess a certain je ne sais quoi. As an actress, I’ve often found myself drawn to complex characters and narratives that challenge me as a performer.
Working with Paul Greengrass on The Bourne Ultimatum was a transformative experience. His unorthodox directing style kept me on my toes, and it forced me to adapt to new situations quickly. When we were filming in Tangier, I would often catch myself thinking about the next scene or shot, rather than letting go and fully immersing myself in the moment.
From Comedies to Dramatic Roles
As a comedic actress, I’ve had the opportunity to work on various projects that showcase my range. Chosen Family was a great experience where I got to play off Heather Graham. Our scenes together were always fun, and I think that chemistry translates onto screen.
Working with improv comedians on Unbearable Christmas was an absolute blast. It was the most enjoyable experience I’ve ever had as an actress, as we were all constantly laughing and trying to outdo each other with witty one-liners.
Exploring Villainy
I’d love to play a villainous role someday. The idea of bringing depth and nuance to a character that’s often misunderstood is fascinating to me. Mike Myers once said that the villain is the hero of their own story, and I think there’s truth in that.

In Save the Last Dance, my character’s emotional breakthrough scene was pivotal in conveying the loss of her mother. While I didn’t draw from personal experiences, I did tap into a universal human emotion that resonates with audiences worldwide.
Dancing for Six Hours a Day
Ballet training was an incredible experience that helped me develop as a dancer and actress. However, it was also a high-pressure environment where I had to constantly push myself to improve. The setup of the movie, featuring her mother’s tragic death, allowed me to tap into my own emotions and convey a sense of vulnerability.
From Acting to Directing
My studies in English literature were instrumental in shaping my approach to storytelling. As an actor, I learned about classical structure, character development, and pacing – all essential elements when crafting a compelling narrative. When it came time to direct Wish You Were Here, these skills served me well in bringing the story to life.
Seeking Advice from Fellow Directors
I sought advice from experienced directors like Doug Liman and Susan Seidelman, who shared valuable insights on navigating the industry. Their guidance helped me stay focused on my vision while also being open to new ideas and perspectives.
Sunday Roasts and Pizza**
As a New York native, I miss the city’s vibrant food scene – especially pizza! Whenever I’m away, I make it a point to taste-test local slices and compare them to the iconic NYC pizzerias. On the other hand, I do enjoy a good British Sunday roast, which is often associated with comfort and warmth.
Riviera and 10 Things I Hate About You**
I thoroughly enjoyed working on Riviera, and while the plot was complex, I found it engaging and compelling. As for 10 Things I Hate About You, Kat’s sonnet remains an iconic moment in the film – though I’m afraid my memory isn’t as sharp as Drake‘s when it comes to quoting lines from his songs!